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too agressive???
is there any such thing as an over agressive woman? wondering how men feel about this? I honestly like a man to take control, but when I get excited, well, can't help myself...does it intimidate? I know what i like/want and ain't afraid of taking it |
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Personally, I think some men get turned on when a woman knows what she wants and can convey it to them.
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Sharon |
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Lulu is also aggressive, it is intimidating to some. The ones with a good self esteem love a woman that knows what she wants and how to get it. Personally, when we first started dating I felt like I was with the black widow spider that will eat me alive once she was done fucking me......must've done something right, or maybe it was my cooking...... |
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I like them to be a lil aggressive but there is a point to where it is just too much. Some women come on stronger than any man does. Now amanda comes on strong with the ladies but is more submissive with the men. We were friends with one couple where she would cock block me and amanda at parties and clubs. If we tried to talk to anyone she would always be there pushing one of us out of the way in every situation. It was such a turn off for us both and we are no longer friends with either of them
gary and amanda |
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That is not aggressive, that is nasty, stupid and desperate.
Last summer, the house next door to us sold, and the new owner brought his br in law from out of town to do some reno's. David, was really nice, friendly and well spoken, very talented at renovating and we instantly hit it off, and Lulu and I became friends with him. Just vanilla, as he had a girlfriend at the time and she was back in his home town, 4 hrs away.
We love cooking and hosting so we had him over for lunch or dinner, sometimes, and showed him around, as he wasn't familiar with the city.
Our single female tenant joined us sometimes for a drink in the evening, and will throw herself at him. The fact that she'd have 7-8 drinks and pass out on his couch without ever bringing any, that she never brought the guy a sandwich probably didn't helped her case at all. We never played with him as he was fresh out of his 11 yr relationship in November when we saw him again, but we wonder how our tenant would feel if she'd know he kissed me, a guy, first.....LOL We both kissed him, he loved it!
The way to a |
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There are some 'aggressive women' as Gary has described, just as well as some 'aggressive men'. As far as me, I can be either(aggressive or submissive), depending on the situation & how well we know the person/cpl. xoxo Shirley |
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There is definately such a thing as an overly aggressive women same as with men. No one likes to feel pressured by either a man or a women. |
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We went to a local swingers club Friday nite with another couple. There was a single girl there and she was cute but she went to the play room with several differant people through out the nite. Now we were all at our table getting to know each other better when the single girl walked up and asked me if I play. I told her yeah I do, her response was well why are you still just sitting there with her hand on her hips and just bobbing her head being all cocky. So I responded back to her that I have been that we have been doing this for seven years now and that I have had my share of playing,besides I dont do sloppy fourths or fiths and that was the end of her lol Besides the fact I was very busy getting to know the hot lil goth girl sitting in front of me and I got to know her pretty well by 6 am lol I dont think the single girl will approach me again like that lmao
gary |
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I believe there are times, I know what i want and i go for it and take control of everything head to toe. Yet i know there are times i want my husband to take control, cause being man handled is amazing... but i also like being in control .... depends on the day for us :)
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There's a difference between aggressive, and pushy. Don't mind a gal, or guy, oops there's my secret bi cumming out again, not being shy and a be a bit aggressive, in terms of confidence and taking hold and charge of want they want and how they want it in the bedroom, as long as they are respectful and sexy about it, it's fun. Pushy on another matter is a big pain in the u know what. Don't need that. |
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I recently thought I was aggressive until I was corrected and told I was " Confident and Strong"...whatever that means??.. LOL
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A polite way of saying aggressive and abrasive? I know because I'm very confident and strong LOL.
Everyone is different, and there's a place for everyone of us. If someone doesn't accept us for who we are, too bad, soo sad, life goes on regardless, with or without them. We're here to have fun not to find another life partner or a soul mate, and if being too aggressive it's a turn off for someone, then they should have patience, there's a lot of shy, soft spoken and gentle people in the lifestyle as well.
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If I was "aggressive and abrasive" I wouldn't be working at a swingers club. Im pretty sure that 99% of the people on here who have MET me could tell you I am very nice. Me and you just bump heads..;)
I am sure I will see you around at the club one day, If you so choose to come back. Come give me a hug and we will make amends. |
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Now pressured, abrasive and rude are quite different from aggressive. All in the context of the moment I believe....I don't mind a gal or guy, oops did it again, grabbing me by the hair and "now get on your knees and be a good vampire, I"ll make you a maaaaaan!" |
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There's nothing wrong with being aggressive and abrasive, I don't go looking for it but I love a challenge. And then there's pushovers, nothing wrong with them either, it's just their nature.....
Ideally would be to balance the two, but then I'd be an asshole.......... |
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Or then there are the one who ALL are
Confident or agressive and abrasive and have that power struggle. However sometimes, that can also be the most mind blowing sex . |
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To lonnie440, my thought on this subject is, it's knidof a turn on when you be agressive first to him, but don't do it all the time, oyu have to play innocent sometimes or wanting to be taking advantge of to, sexually softy, ya know what i mean, it's how i am , ya never know how i'll act it's all bout the moods, hehehehe and it keeps them coming back for more, lol, not being conceted k lovs keri :hello: |
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thanks everyone...i've learned a lot...i love to be "man-handled" shall we say, but in the heat of the moment is when i tend to take over...working on a little of both. As lonnie would say, I always try to lead even when we're dancing...lol...weird, cuz i do like a man to take control most of the time, big turn on...just need to work on it. just wondered how most mean felt about it. I'll take her down a notch i guess ;) |
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most men felt about it ^^
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I haven't met another women as aggressive as my wife when it comes to sex. When she wants me she don't hold back. I am so used to having her initiate things that I sometimes forget how she likes it when I initiate things. And beleive me she mentions it when I don't. I do love how she takes control but kick myself somtimes for not starting things before she does. Like a lot of things, you get used to having it a certain way and kind of expect it. It all turns out good so not a whole lot of complaining...lol. I think there is certain times and situations where being agressive might not be the best thing but saying "not now" isn't always a bad thing and besides, there is always a "later" to look forward to.
Dave(sexylumina99) |
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Don't suppose you wanna swap for keeps? LOL
Lulu never ever ever initiate anything, although she's game for everything........Ok, she's correcting me now, apparently she's initiating cleaning, cooking so it's my job to initiate the sex. Sorry y'all.... |
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She is a keeper and I am very lucky to have her. I am sure Cat(wife) would let me know she definately initiates the cleaning, laundry, cooking like Lulu just reminded you. I help but don't get credit for it. |
RE: too agressive???
Well, we do butt heads a lot over affection. As Sicilians, we love touching, kissing, etc. When I meet friends we don't shake friends, we hug and kiss on the cheek. Lulu laughed her ass off with my brother in law(my sister's husband) when we visited my grandmother, she was 93 at the time, and all thru the visit she petted me and kissed and hugged. Lulu's parents never kiss, hug, hold hands or show any display of public affection, Lulu rarely kisses or hugs or wrestle with our kids, I do.
If I'd be to take a nap today in my parent's home, my mom would come hold me and cuddle with me, and I'm almost 38. Italians have a saying, an Italian man will respect his wife, will spoil his mistress but the only woman they really love is their mother. Same goes with our son Gino, he adores his mother, he was breastfed until almost 4. He'd never leave our home or go to college in another city unless his older sister would go with him.
He's got a b'day party followed by a sleep over tonight, and we already heard the violin first thing this morning, he doesn't wanna spend the night, so we'd have to pick him up after the party.
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I think people should make their wants and desires known. When you swing with someone, you don't know all their likes and dislikes. We both like aggressive, meaning having no problem telling us what they want, but not being pushy. If someone was as rude as the single girl was to Gary, it would turn us off as well. If I am going down on someone and I am missing the mark......or she wants to switch up.....then I have no problem with that because we are all there to please. |
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