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more advice Don t be a dildo You dildo

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more advice Don t be a dildo You dildo

take time to talk with someone. Especially if you want to remain friends and have their respect. Take it from me cause I have been guilt of this within the past 1 or so.
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RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
Yes..we agree. There are some here who are just here to notch the headboard, and really dont care about the hubby weve found. It seems they just want to play with the wife. It takes a little time to get to know people and earn their trust and respect. I believe cute lil girl wud back us up on that. Ive seen her posts and she is always has a levelheaded, intelligent advice to give to newbies and experienced. And same goes for Shirley and Clark.

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!

I appreciate the compliment. Now if I could get my kids to listen to my advice lmao

Sharon

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
My thinking on this is that if I were single I wouldn't hop into bed with someone I didn't know so why would I do that now?

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
Flexi,

Every site is different and getting acclimated to ST is sometimes difficult because I feel we offer a different view of Swinging, the real kind.

I am glad that you have returned and look forward to your stimulating posts.

Sharon

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
Thank you Lil Tater, we appreciate that, xoxo Shirley

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!

I am glad that you have returned and look forward to your stimulating posts.

Aww shucks :)

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
"There are some here who are just here to notch the headboard, and really dont care about the hubby weve found" I can see why that would ruin the experience for a married couple.
That's not exactly what I was talking about though. I was speaking in general, Don't be a dildo and always talk it out. Texting, IM'ing and email is no way to sort out different points of view. What happens is a fast track to perpetuating the problem.

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
In the beginning my husband got left out a lot. Now I make it a point to let the guest know that it is either the both of us or neither of us.

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
the best way we have found to prevent that is to put in your profile same room and everyone plays. But there still is on occasion that line gets lost in translation. all you can do is move on and lesson learned. fool me once shame on you fool me twice, well i guess we deserve it. lol

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
Be it right or wrong this is the reason single males have it so difficult. It is also up to everyone, the male or female half of every couple that is playing as a couple, no alone needs to make sure that the other is equally involved.

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
ok i dont know if you was refering to us on that one or not? No where in our post did we say any thing about single guys. we covered that in other issues. Even in mfm roles that rule can apply. there is still plenty to do in that situation also. lol I was just trying to give advice to a few of the left out husband syndrome.
But we will say one thing we just got a email from a single guy and all it said is i want to
F _ _ _ your wife while you watch. Now that doesnt look good coming from anyone including couples. A little respect goes a long ways, in more ways than one. WE have said the same thing if you are a couple it takes both comunicating to make sure no one is left out in all areas you seek. Sorry we should have made this one more clear :handshake; LOL

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
Communication is the key with any potential playtime. We prefer to let the boundries be known before anything starts and if the other(s) don't like it...there's the door a quarter for a phonecall (if you can find a payphone, do they even exist anymore???)

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
I like the ones that tell you your wife is hot and if we would like to play,and when you mention that you play as a couple with couples they seem to get very distant or just outright leave the chat.

RE: more advice...Don't be a dildo. You dildo!!!!
I would think that if a couple is asking for a single straight person then the other is being left out or just wanting to watch. perhaps cheer them on oh maybe giving advise.

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