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how to initiate anal sex
My wife has not and will not have anal sex..what is the best way to initiate? swing with anal partners? |
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RE: how to initiate anal sex
What is her concerns? Pain, cleanliness? Alot of people(men included) have fears of anal. If she was open to it, and she is very clean back there(most women are) start by rimming her, licking, kissing, ect. when shes extremely horned upm start slowly with a WELL LUBED finger and trimmed nails, and work a small portion in while licking her pussy. Don't just jam it in, give her time to get used to it. then just very gradually over time, work more fingers and or maybe even a small vibrator in there. Chances are she will love it. When it comes time and she or he is ready, after the foreplay, start by easing urself in slowly and let her tell you whats comfortable for her. Ive found once she has you in past the rim, and fully in deep, they love it if you grond and pump slowly. Not a fast pumping action. There are valid concerns for people, but they are easily talked about and remedied thru talk and gentle foreplay. At least thats our take on it. My wife had never done it before me, and once I got in, she cant get enough. |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
its up to the women if she wants anal |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
Yes, I agree. Thanks for expanding my opinion. Every woman is different and yes..absolutely you have to let her make the final say, as my wife wishes I to be the only one back there as well. |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
my boyfriend is huge compared to the other men ive had anal with and it scared me at first he went slow and let me call all the shots but now with lube i want it about two or three times a week |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
well we like anal fun wife so far only a toy me i have had real thing both enjoy it |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
Lots of lube lots of foreplay and lots of patients !! |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
Well if she says absolutely not, you should drop it until she brings the idea up.
sharon |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
First let us say that if she says no way, You will probably never get there by pushing or pestering her about it, She doesn't want to be forced or pressured. As to the swing part some people only will do anal with thier partner. You could try just touching to start. If she does agree to try, Lots and lots of lube, then let her be in control, if she changes her mind or says stop...STOP. Another thing you can try is make sure she is extremely turned on before you even try. Have read several things about positions for anal Most say her on her back is the least painful, different for every one though. Good luck and hope all goes well.
Dave and Mary |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
I had never had anal sex until my husband and had heard some bad stories about it. He didn't pester me about it but simply started licking it and rimming it then eventually stuck the tip of his fnger in there until we got to the point where he could put it all the way in. I totally agree with the fact that if she says stop, then stop or you'll never get near there again, thats a trust thing you have to have with your partner. GOOD LUCK! |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
talk with her before ever doing anything, you don't want this to come between you. but ask her gently if you can rub the outside of the hole slowly. she might find that she likes it and suggest that you move forward slowly. Respect her wishes and don't come on too strong. It is either her pace or no pace when it comes to this. |
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we talked about it well over a year before it did happen. lots of lube and very slowly was how we got there. lots of foreplay first! |
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The 2 times we tried it she had alot of tequilla lmao |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
Shoot, it's going to take more than Tequilla shots for me!! lmao
Cuz it ain't happening!! lol lol xoxo Shirley |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
:devil: lmao lmao lmao cum on give the poor boy a break lol
gary xoxo |
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Oh yeah, I'll brake something alright!! lmao lmao xoxo Shirley |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
Well hell sorry Tator I tried to help you out lmao
gary |
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you go girl he aint getting me that drunk on tequila no more lol amanda |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
Omg, thank you Amanda!! lmao lmao xoxo Shirley |
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Gary, slip her one of them knock out pills & just have your way wiff it lol Thats my plan lol |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
lmao tator, Amanda you know you love it when I tap that ass lmao
gary xoxo |
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You try it again and Im going to pull a Bobbit on you lol |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
:eek: I :surrender:
gary |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
Love it Amanda!! You go girl!! Know I don't feel alone on this matter!! lol xoxo Shirley |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
That's seems to be a touchy subject for some women ,I used to say its only an exit not an entrance , but now I've let hubby a few times and its not bad but the way we do it is first lots of lube and all he does is hold it there and I move and eventually it slides on in ! And the rest is history ! Lol lol lol it can be painful jus go realllllllllLy slow ! Lol |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
I have to agree there is a lot of trust involved with this sexual act. You have to show a lot of patients and not push the point or it will not happen. Great foreplay and communication are the keys to that locked box ;) |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
You have my complete attention lol :doggystyle:
gary |
RE: how to initiate anal sex
Anal sex is soooo much different than vaginal sex. It's not a "natural" thing for that orfice to do, although it can.
Paitence, and strecthing of the muscles is important. Tounge, then finger(s), then maybe a small toy or vibrator before putting yourself in helps big time. Most of the time by the time you get the finger in, and she's relaxed, she's starting to want more than fingers.. |
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