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When a single male only writes a one liner Lazy?

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When a single male only writes a one liner Lazy?

It's our preference not to indulge our preferences and engage in further interaction if all you write is a one-liner. That's fine but just not us now we think or act. You must agree that there should be SOMETHING of substance in your response that tells a little about you; again, not just a one-liner. Give us a general feel as to who you are, what you want and don't want, and your play preferences. Anything beyond that is up to you to indulge. We have seen that the more specific you write, it is more likely that games wont be played and we both find EXACTLY what they're looking for.

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RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
We perfected ourselves painstakingly to know the mind of a single male by posting to Craigslist and to other swinger profile sites and talked to literally hundreds of single males because we force our heart to do so. Why? Because we seek to know the personality and mind of what we will write about called, "The Single Male Syndrome". Doing that so you dont have too. Later. Will post on our yahoo forum one day our writings.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
Any person who writes a one liner or a one sentenced profile to me is not a serious swinger, and definitely doesn't lure me into wanting to meet with them. A profile has to have some sort of substance to lure and catch the eye; if not I think they are just wasting their time and mine.

Sharon

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
I hope you include the couples and single females in that synopsis also. Don't just be prejudiced against the single male.

Or just put certain people or groups of people on a pedestal and write shit on anyone who doesn't fit the criteria for that pedestal

Please don't let me know when your work of art is complete, I think I'll pass on the reading of it.

There is a enough stereo typing and labeling in this world why add to it?

Why not just silently delete the email click ignore or block?

Oh I know it isn't any fun unless you can talk about someone or something in a negative fashion I forget the swingers credo! Never give up an opportunity to tell everyone how much you hate the single male.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
YES PRETTY BIG TO DO BASHING ON THE SINGLE MALES YET STEP BACK AND LOOK WHO HAS POSTS ON FOUR DIFFIRENT TOPICS AND DOES REALLY TALK ABOUT ANYTHING BUT YOUR CLUB TALK ABOUT THROWING A MONKEY WRENCH INTO WORKING MACHINERY HAVE A GREAT DAY EVERYONE
ROB

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
People come on these sites to get laid, some come on to meet and greet and then???. Some people are slow into things others are balls to the wall wanting to get laid. Some are respectful others are disrespectful. I think the original poster was speaking of the latter? If so I can agree that I will not let any aggresive and disrespectful single male near myself let alone my wife. Same goes for a female of the same mentality, and they do exist. One thing you have to remember, sometimes one liners are ice breakers, especially for someone you have no idea of what common ground you stand on? My 2 cents.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
We quite often only send a short message to start.

We let them know that their profile interested us, invite them to check ours out and let us know if they want to chat.

I don't see the point of a big message if we are not what they are looking for.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
The reason depends. I just wrote a one-liner because I wanted to see the site before investing a whole lot of time in what could just as easily be one of the ripoff sites that seem to be multiplying daily, in not hourly.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
Without a properly filled out profile, you will not get much of a quality response. You do need to put in some effort if you want to get great rewards.
You profile is not only unimpressive but inaccurate as you have the age of 18 on it and no further information.

Sharon

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
Any one who just puts one line is not into it. cpl, M or F, we are here to meet people, friends, aquiantances, fuck buddies, online chat, at least put a little about your self not just " hey lets fuck" it is more than just that. I approve profiles for a site and always deny those, one liners.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
I started out in this lifestyle as asingle Male. And yes I found people to play with. I never wrote a one liner, I would take the time to actually read someones profile and actually write a decent reply and include things from thier profile to let them know that I read it. We have no single males on our profile and they still contact us. which shows that many don't even take the time to read a profile so it shouldn't surprise you they only take the time to write a one liner.
Dave

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
As a single male, let me suggest why single males often only write one liners: 1) they are in fact lazy.... lol 2) many have no intent/courage (balls) to meet 3) the older we get the better we think we used to be... and are now.... lol 4) they are not people you really want to know... 5) we are "working out again" (not really)... makes us feel manly to know we are going to start.... soon?... roflmao....

Because of the above (I'm sure you can add more) many couple and single female ads specify "NO SINGLE MALES... we will contact you." If they are interested, I'll hear from them and we'll take it from there. This has been successful for me. I have met some great people and had great times.

Have fun all!!!

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
Unfortuately many of you have met the lazy male (my arch enemy), however I think you have given the rest of us hard working single males a raw deal. I honestly spent 10 seconds on my intro but spent an incredible amount of time on my bio. Does this make me lazy? Does this make me deniable?

To me, the intro is nothing more than fluff. It doesn't really portray anything about me nor does it offer any magical insight as to my desires, interests or thoughts. Its just a hook. Nothing more. The bio is the meat and potatoes of who we are. It goes both ways. If I see a couples profile and their bio basically says "we want a big and thick dick for my wife", I pass it by. Why? Not because of the one liner but the bio (the guts) of their profile.

If you take 10 seconds to review my profile, you wont find "hey lets fuck" or that sort of nonsense. There are some of us here that prefer to be judged by our actual bio rather than the intro liner. Some of us are actually honest, professional and polite.

Sorry, but Im sick of being segragated because of my status rather than who I am.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
oh buggger i think i might of accedently started this... if it was because of my actions the only reason behind the one liner is i was a little too nervous to be compleatly open yet im realy new to this... and now i cant get the membership untill i get to the post office for a money order by then every thing will be way out of proportion and if you think id come here only to trawl for woman your wrong i could do that at any night club quit easily, i was getting it was a bit of a thrill just being able to say what i wanted no holes barred...

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
From what I have gathered it seems most parties/clubs are full of couples and single ladies and never allow single males, why?

What point is it to go to a party where there are only pussies and married cock? All of the prejudice toward single men I see on here makes me wonder just how "secure" some people and some club members are in their marriages?

I welcome single males to join myself and my wife. It is fun and you make good friends. From my point of view is that not what this lifestyle is about, or is that open to interpretation?

As far as the "detailed" opening statement and description goes, bull. You don't have to write a two page newspaper article to get attention. When I write my description or opening I am not trying to please anyone, I just be honest. If it is not to the standards of the award winning novelist don't read it. It's brief, it's short, and it is not a magical fairytale of how things "could" be.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
not sure but think the original poster was talking about emails and not profiles

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
I think the original poster was talking about profiles, if I read it right. Not sure. I could be wrong, shoot, it wouldn't be the first time I was wrong! lmao Ok I'll admit it!! xoxo Shirley

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
I think most people who make one-line profiles are just a little scared to open up about what they want or desire. Some I think are ignorant and can't write anymore than like on gentleman who said I want to get laid and spelled it wrong to boot..He was probably over excited or jerking the monkey we will never know..I guess my fault is I tell the truth in mine and some people think we are just probably no fun..Who knows I sure don't and have been chastised in the past for some of my comments that were taken wrong..

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
To add to this discussion is also the fact that some of these profiles have the wording and sentence structure of a five year old....and while it may work for some, it is something that does not appeal to us (I guess each to their own). Kudos to all of those who do take the time to fill out their profiles and do have some wit to entertain the mind (to some it is the sexiest organ there is!) and well as the other sensual senses.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
I just think that people need to really stop being so judgmental of the single male. Not all of us are a bunch of slobbering neanderthals seeking gratification. Some of us live by the swinger creed and seek something out of the ordinary to the fulfillment of all parties.

If you got burned by a single male, fine. I suggest working on your screening techniques and don't group all of us into the same category. I personally was burned by a couple because the husband was too insecure to bring another male into the party after everything was established. As such, I have refined my screening and questioning to ensure this doesn't happen again. Do I hate on "couples" due to this experience? Hell no. I lived and learned.

I am neither scared nor ignorant nor lazy. I am also not over excited nor jerking the monkey while writing this message or my profile. I am a professional that unfortunately has not found a mate that shares my sexual preferences. For those ignorant souls out there, there are definitely more single males out there like me....its just your bigotry and stereotyping has blinded you to an untapped resource in your sexual goals.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
Well said!

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
My question is this, if a single male is not an interest to someone why have it posted in the "We Want To Meet" section? Just a question that intriges me? I am not pro single male or con single male it depends on the person more than the fact they are single. When I was young, single, and in VERY good shape I attended parties with a girlfriend and the older married guys acted like I was some kind of threat. Boy did they want my 19 year old girlfriend to join with their wives but acted like a deer in rut when I got within 10 feet of their wife. Seemed, at that time, it was more hidden jealousy than anything. I have been on the single male side, I was respectful but still got the cold shoulder. Seems it is no place for attractive respectful single males in swinging even today, am I wrong?

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
I 100% agree with you Stangtatt when you say... It all depends on the person. Todd and I both started out as singles here, and he can tell you how I dragged my heels to even talk with him. But, his personality outshown the fact he was "single"
But, where I disagree with you is where single males and swinging stand, because there are a "few" places to go. I have found that finding an established house or swing party where the hosts put efforts into their invitation lists have a few single males into the lot. My thoughts on this is that they realize that they were all single once and needed a break... that and once divorce/breakups occur if they like one part of the couple then he is pretty much a single guy.
All I can honestly say is I have NEVER had a problem with a legit, single man here in ST or in real life. So, I dun understand what all the bitchin is about lol

Sharon

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
I have just noticed the original poster has many threads that blatantly call out single males in general, and not in good ways. I am not the only member who has noticed that fact. As far as you cutelilgirl, I know you have no problem with single males. My opinions are based on the MANY threads against single male by the poster and in the lifestyle in general, not directly to you hun.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
In my case, shy.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
I think one of the key ingredients in determining the worth of a single guy is to gauge the following:
1) Respect/patience - If they are respectful and patient to your needs, their legitimacy should increase. If they are married (but acting single) and/or looking for a quick fling or single and hoping for a quick bang, these individuals will easily become visible for what they are.
2) Pushiness - If the male is pushy, there is generally a reason why. It could be that they want to find something before their significant other finds out or looking for an easy one night stand. Single males that arent pushy for sex should be singled out, made friends and added to a hot list (if you are seeking such).
3) Longevity - If a single male sticks around through the small talk, chances are they may be legitimate. While not the most accurate gauge, it definitely weeds out those that are not serious to the lifestyle.
4) Bio - If the single male takes the time to put out a thorough and comprehensive profile (and is willing to share images), chances are you may have stumbled upon a diamond in the rough. Those males that choose to put out a incomplete, basic profile with no option of image sharing should be kicked to the curb and not thought of again. Those that are serious will take the time to explain their intent and be prepared to share images of themselves.

HOWEVER if you ask for the single male to share images, its only fair that you share in return. I have had several private image requests where I was willing to share and the recipient "chose" to not share back. Highly rude and really not an example of what swinging is about. One of the posters on this forum is an example of this. A single male doesn't equate to a sub-species selection. Single males that are true to the creed will be selective in their couple selection as a couple would be in selecting a single male. I have removed several private image requests from couples because they seem to have forgotten what swinging is all about.

It falls upon the couple (unfortunately) to determine if a single guy meets their criteria. Through proper screening and basic probing (no pun intended), you should have a pretty accurate understanding of who you are dealing with.

Those that have "single male horror stories" should take a moment and review their selection and verifying processes before they lump us all into a category unwarranted.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
Normaldude, the pic request happens just the same with couples. We have given access to many and gotten nothing in return, probably one example being from the same poster you mentioned? My point in this forum is the stereotyping that some have made a high priority to put out on this site. It is a very bad thing to do because it puts pre-conceived notions in the minds of any new couples.
Instead of giving a single male any form of consideration they just dismiss them because of what the "seasoned" swingers said. It can be argued that newbies wouldn't do that but what married guy is going to take any chances if a "seasoned" couple has had a guy who was disrespectful and treated the situation like a hardcore porn? Why do you think there are a "few" clubs that allow single males?
We too have dealt with the over bearing and pushy guys on here, most of those guys have been married. We have had the same in single guys but not as much as with married guys.
It's just like cutelilgirl said, it depends on the person. It does not matter if they are single, married, or married cheats you deal with them all but you try to be smart enough to know the bullshitters from the real deal.
As far as the one liners and single guys topic, well I took the liberty to scan some profiles and have noticed it is the same with females and couples. Some even have no profile pic or anything, just the shadow faces. So my point is everyone does it, why single out the single male. In my mind there has to be a reason for the single male onslaught I have seen on the site? We have yet to have a bad experience with a single male, they all have been respectful and well mannered? Maybe we are lucky or just good at weeding the turds out lol?

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
Well said.

Like many have concluded, it depends on the individual. I, like you, don't really understand the onslaught. Perhaps things were not as secure in their relationship when introducing a single male or the single male was not to a couples expectations (ie he was rude, pushy, disrespectful, etc)

Either which way, it does not equate in singling out a specific gender group in such a bigoted fashion.

You are a breath of fresh air. It is refreshing to see someone as enlightened as you.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
Enlightened, no. Been there, yes. We just don't judge the mass by the actions of one or a few. We have met some very good single men that we wouldn't have if we listened to the pre-judgement of others, that's all. In life we all have choices and to each their own. We just want the newbies to the lifestyle to know the other side of the debate to allow them to make an educated and not a pre-conceived decision. Doing so can close some pretty good times and pretty good people out of their lives. e are not slamming anybody for choosing not to allow single men by any means, just adding another side to the story, that's all.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
Besides, the original poster's page only has an advertisement for their club. Nothing of substance other than, "wings and beer". Rocks in a glass house people!

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
Hot wife: Thanks for standing up for the single male, the one liners and all those who aren't looking for a bi female to fuck their wife so he might get some strange later/! LOL!!

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
personaly, if the one line reads..loved yor profile can we chat and learn more....what's the big deal..you just opened the door, either step in or move on...

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
As a young, single male just starting to learn and get into this lifestyle, this forum had been very informative. I have been interested in swinging for a number of years, but because I was in a committed relationship with a woman who did not believe in it, I was unable to explore it as an option.
I am not one of those "one liner guys" as described above, but in my limited interactions with others, let me chime in and say I have had couples who are "one liners" as well.
I look at this as an opportunity to meet like minded people, who I can be myself with. I think a lot of people have the view this is all about getting as much "strange" as they can, which I cannot say is the case for me.
I would much rather have a very select group of true friend/playmates, then answer every ad on Craigslist or any other site, and end up with a bunch of random, one night encounters (not saying the occasional one-off cannot be extremely fun or satisfying, but that is just not who I am.
So thank-you to those who have stood up for the single male, not everyone decides to start swinging once they are a couple.
I look forward to meeting new friends, putting in my pennies (have not yet earned the right for two cents) and starting this new part of my life.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
If its a one liner in a email I see nothing wrong with a one liner like undercoverfun has stated. If you read the profile you should get a general idea of the person and respond if interested.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
monkeycoup do you even have a profile on here describing who you are. The only thing II seen was an advertisement for a club. If you are going to dump on one group then maybe you should make sure that you have a profile describing you. When you send emails i bet you talk about the club.

RE: When a single male only writes a one-liner ... Lazy?
Good point, I have noticed that as well. That's why I chimed in originally myself, why smack others when they are just as bad. It's cool to advertise your club, I think we all would agree on that, but when their profile is a one liner introduction to their "club" the base for their argument becomes very weak. Just as in any point or debate if you are going to put an opinion out there be sure you have a solid argument to stand on and are not a guilty party yourself. The only communication they have ever made to me was a website, and a description of their club. One-liner, i'll take that over an advertisement anyday at least the person is genuine.

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