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To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?

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To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?

I would have to say it is ok for mixed couples to kiss. Now some would say that kissing is too personal or kissing is reserved for my spouse. That is all good. However as far as the personal thing goes. If you just gave someone oral, what could be more personal. I get the reserved for the spouse thing. Some people need to have that connection.
Most swingers are lustful passionate people, and what could be more lustful or passionate than kissing. Lets hear what you think about kissing in the swing thing.

xtc man

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RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
Hi i am in total agreement that a very passionate kiss is a necessity in great sex,sex without great kissing is like getting to the peak of exploding and stopping VERY BAD NEWS.

Joe

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
I have had many swingingly great moments without a moment of liplocking. I think it is just a personal choice for an individual or couple. Me, I don't have to have it, never even thought of the option of "to kiss or not to kiss"

Sharon

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
I enjoy kissing very much, I'm extremely sensuous so of course I do. But only with Tony, I simply do not have to have it to get what I need with a swinging partner. We do kiss during swinging fun but not as we kiss one another passionately.

I don't view kissing as being a "personal thing" It's more intimate just as making love should be. Any 2 people can have recreational sex but it takes 2 people in love to be intimate and make love.

Just my opinion and how we choose to swing!

Smooches,
Gin

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
I love it when you speak Gin-Gin... A few pecks here & there are ok to help get things going . Shirley & I try to refrain from passionate kissing, It could send out the wrong signal...
We're here to have fun, make friends, & have new sexual experiences, We keep love making to our selfs... That's a great post y'all!!! :beer: ...

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
We agree with Tator. Keep the sensual deep kissing between the original partners. Can't be giving all the secrets away...

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
we've actually had this conversation!!!! I m not sure if I feel it to be too personal. I , myself don't do it enough to Sara (shame on me) on the mouth anyway........so there is a shortfall in my performance....so we decided that it would be better for me to apply that at home. However, Sara loves to watch me have sex w/ other women so I guess I do I'm fullfilling my duties there!!!!!lol.....

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
I think people read to much into this subject. If your relationship with your partner is solid, Kissing someone else in a swinging or other relationship should not interfear with your love for your partner. I for one, Love a good kiss from a pretty woman.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
Yes, I agree Todd, but, there is kissing & there is passionate, deep-kissing, ya know? We prefer to have the passionate kissing to ourselves.

But I'll kiss ya Todd, maybe even some French kisses too...xoxo Shirley

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
Yum Yum.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
we think if the chemistry is there between the couples,and you are giving your selves up sexually,its all in the package if the attraction is there(kissing).jus an opinion. keep on swinging with no drama

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
In swinging NOTHING comes in the "package" as individuals, we each decide our limits, wants and desires and create the perfect swinging package for us. This is just one reason why communication is so very important.

Thanks Apple Dumplin, I just luv ya Sugar!!!!

Smooches,
Gin

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
OH COME ON KISS ME ALREADY
ROB

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
lmao Rob, cmere Sweetie!!!

kisses
Gin

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
I am a very oral girl, I like my lips on everything, (as long as it's properly washed ( lmao)
This being said, The one and only time I ever felt any jealousy was over a kiss. The funny thing was that I really liked the lady and she was a blast to party with, But that one instant, went through me like a lightening bolt.
You might expect that it would have caused an argument, but I was madder at myself for having those feelings than I was at them.
I am not a jealous person and the emotion floored me.
We have since talked about it and I got my head right, :lol:
And we kiss.
I can't imagine me having sex without lips wandering and lingering with all the physical passion I can muster.
. If we invite someone to our bed ,we want them to have one of the most ejoyable times ever, so I do not see the reason for limitations on our experiences.
We enjoy a good game of tonsil hockey and it is my favorite part of foreplay.
I guess what I am trying to say (in my ever so long winded way ) I Love my friends and I love sharing them with my husband, but
The passion and love that I have for my husband is heart and soul deep and no matter how deeply I am kissed, noone else can even scratch the surface.
Huggs,
Karen

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
When I play with a playmate,,I give it my all ,,nothing held back,I view it as ,this ,,could,, be an only 1 time thing,With some of the people Ive met mileage is in the thousands of mile range,And im not going to deny myself kissing or anything else thats shared and enjoyed by two people,It's a choice made by every individual ,Ive made mine,,

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
"The passion and love that I have for my husband is heart and soul deep and no matter how deeply I am kissed, no one else can even scratch the surface."

Well said Karen!!!!! I totally agree and you stated it beautifully.
We have played once with a couple in the past who had a "no kissing" rule. Notice I said ONCE. We were respecting their rules. In the middle of girl/girl time, Mr three kissed the other woman on the shoulders. Her mouth was busy :)~ so he wasnt going to kiss her on the mouth. Well, her hubby FrEaKeD out !! Needless to say that was a mood killer. Since then we do not play with people who have a no kissing rule. To us part of sex is kissing and we enjoy it. It was just too damn stressful trying to follow someone's rules who are not in sync with us.
There is nothing wrong with someone having those rules. Its all about what you enjoy and makes you comfie. But for us, no kissing is not an enjoyable experience.
Mrs T

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
mmmmm laura cmere pucker up baby i got a whole case of chapstick justfor you lol

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I KNEW you wouldnt be able to resist commenting lol

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
how could i dont take this the wrong way but your fricking hot wink wink :inluv:

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
I think kissing is ok, as long as you know its not to get that personal feeling. That "type" of kiss you save for your spouse or SO is something Im finding hard to describe, but you all know what I mean. If your having sex, oral sex, any kind of sex with someone, kissing is a very intergral part of that. I would not have a problem seeing my wife kiss someone I know we are close to and they are regular swinging partners with us. But if she kissed another guy just off the street, yes, I am very uncomfortable with that as she would be with me doing that.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
During swinging, kissing is just another tool to use. If its during a lust filled evening that one thing.
We both feel that a kiss becomes personal when done in an "after" setting. Its difficult to explain but its similar in nature to "sleeping together"----- My wife and I both feel that we may decide to let one or a houseful of people have sex with the other, but-----Nobody sleeps with my wife (or me). Sleeping together, snuggling, whatever its called----basking in the after glow ?? We only do that together.

We had one instance where after a threesome, it was late and the guy spent the nite----with the provision that he sleep in the other bed. He didnt like that, but we explained our feeling and he decided to leave!!??

Long story but the point is: is the kiss part of playing or part of an emotional closeness??

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
I love kissing my wife or any girl during sex it makes me so hot onetime in prison i let a dude go down on me and afterwards he tried to cuddle and i was totally repulsed it was weird that i could cum in his mouth but i was grossed out by hugging so what that tells me is i could in no way kiss a dude

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
For us its the "full deal". We want to touch, lick, suck, stroke our partners and have likewise done to us. We have only had MMF experiences and three way kissing is a turn on for us.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
deep tongue kissing really heats things up and gets the juices going.....there is no better way to start things off than hot kissing.....if your going to suck a cock or eat a pussy you have to suck tongue

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
Gotta have the kissing

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
i think you gotta kiss. its so intimate and you get that level of communication that only comes when you are exploring each other with your lips, tongue...its like dancing.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
I say wht the hell if they r a good kisser y the hell not its just personnel choice but i kiss my spouse abit diff than a swinging partner!! thts the diff between LOVE AN LUST!!!

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
Is there really a difference? I think if your hot, horny and in the middle of a great sex session, go ahead and kiss, it's all part of the enjoyment. And if your great friends on top of that, I see no jealousy issues for me seeing my wife kiss her partner. It also has to have some comfortability level between the "participants" as well. I've found some people can't kiss well even if they can f&%$. Btattsun is correct though, we do kiss our primary partner different, although im not sure just how to explain it. I think this is where the friendship comes into it. If your closer than just a fuckbuddy, you kiss, if your just getting your groove on and fuckin at a party greet, ect and there is no friendship attachment, kissing can be not part of it.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
to me kissing is part of sex it helps get it all going its an ice breaker for us newbies and if you have a solid relationship it wont matter

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
Agree kiss is a definate turn on. Where can raise the level. How is another that can make the difference. Shall I add a kiss that sucks can be listed as great. Now let you mind lead you.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
we think kissing is fine not on the lips but anywhere else is fine passionate kissing is for my spouse

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
We both think that kissing is just between us... we have had some mfm and cpls where the man was kissing the woman here and she just did not like it! it may be because theres alot of men that just dont know how to do it very well.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
Todd....I love watching you kiss another woman, it only gets my temperature rising in anticipation!

Sharon

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
All over her body especialy on her lips ALL her lips :)

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
Personally we tend to reserve oposite sex kissing for each other. Girl/girl kisses are allowed though. Yeah I know if probably sounds hypocritical but hubby doesn't mind.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
My same ideas and thoughts cannot agre more. WE ALL FOUR HAVE THE SAME IDEAS

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
I happen to enjoy passionate kissing but understand the difference between love making and just sharing and enjoying deep kissing. However, I always follow the couples' lead and won't give a deep kiss unless the woman initiates it which, happilly, I've been able to experience many times. Like some have stated here, it's a personal choice and I respect whatever choice that happens to be when I play.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
>> Q. According to Ann Landers, is there anything wrong with getting into the habit of kissing a lot of people ?
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>> A. Charley Weaver: It got me out of the army.
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RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
kissing for me is a big turn on

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
It is a personal choice for each individual. Like anything else it should be dicussed between partners and the ones you play with. Then it should be respected just like any other rule.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
KISS fo sure!

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
I am all up for the kissing and view it as part of the foreplay and lead in to sex. My man however feels completely different and sees it as intimate and only to be done between us.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
As long as there is no drama with it. i find the ladies that do like it say there partner lacks in that department.Pucker up guys!!!;-0

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
Yes kissing is very passionate,especially two ladies lol

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
When kissing a woman for the first time, it's being 16 again! Things start moving, and this is a good thing when swinging, if nothing starts moving there ain't much swinging going on!!

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
The "no kissing" rule drives us crazy! You are having oral sex with a stranger, have another person's husband's cum running out of your mouth, or sticking your tongue in a stranger's ass, but you think kissing is too personal? If you are going to swing, why would it not be "anything goes?" We always think the non-kissers have some real security issues.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
depends on my mood, the person, and the level of attractiveness between us.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
I will not kiss anyone and have no desire to. My man does kiss and though I'd like him not too, I don't tell him what to do, that's on him. It's something we've talked about and this is an issue I just gave up on. I will say after seeing him kiss others I have no desire to kiss him for some time. For me, it turns me off.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
We personally don't have a problem with kissing. But it is one of the things that should be discussed when drawing lines that are not to be crossed. Everyone and every cpl is unique and individual. Don't think just because they are in the lifestyle they are into the same things that you are.

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
For us, the reason we are here is for hot active sexual adventures. In that context, sex is not sex unless it is totally open and we are able to let go. Kissing, in every way, is part of that. I love to watch her kissing another person and she loves to watch me. Our enjoyment of each other is not diminished in any way by the thought that we kiss others. In fact our sex life and our relationship has been taken to a much higher level that it could have otherwise been due to our openness and our sharing. We have not figured out how sucking a cock is less personal than kissing but we respect those rules when we encounter couples who have them. We just would not choose to play again.

Sigma

RE: To kiss or not to kiss that is my question?
If we may add there is a difference a kiss can be ok even with some tongue but some people think they have to try and wash the back of your throat when they kiss.
Dave and Mary

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