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Tips for Newbie swingers
With all the various new groups and newbie swingers, I thought I'd put up a few tips. Please feel free to add on if I forgot something :)
Tips for Newbie swingers…
Before you dive into the lifestyle, you may want to read these basic guidelines:
Why are you getting into swinging?
There are healthy reasons such as spicing up your intimate life; but if you are looking to fix a broken relationship… better find a different way. To survive the swinging lifestyle a relationship needs to be strong and healthy, so please do think twice if you are just doing it to mend a broken bridge within your relationship.
Talk to your partner about expectations
There are many options in the swinging lifestyle including swinger parties, swinger resorts and swinger clubs. There is swinging with singles and with couples and people of the same sex. Make sure you both discuss any issues before hand and share fantasies as this will lead to a better experience for both of you.
Set ground rules
Are you going to only have sex in the same room? Are you going to swing only together? Is it ok to play with a partner of the same sex? Are you comfortable with your partner kissing another person? These are all some of the basic rules some couples have, you may want to discuss what your comfortable with and come to an agreement BEFORE you venture out.
Create a persona
You already have a nickname since you are here on swingTowns, but what about at a party. Are you going to use your real names or persona or nickname? Some people do have issues with using their real names as it brings complications within their private lives.
Meet Online
This is the easiest way to talk to people prior to having any relations with them. Scope out the people you are interested in, don’t be afraid to ask questions. After all, you are going to entrust them into your existing relationship and you both want to feel comfortable. Talking, exchanging pictures via online allows you discretion before meeting up.
Setting up a date
It is wise to set up a first initial meeting somewhere that you can sit and get to know one another. A restaurant or coffee shop is a great places to have a non pressured type of meeting, so if you don’t hit it off the possibility to leave is easy. If you set up a hotel room meeting both of you go in with expectations and pressure… don’t rush it. If you hit it off, then make it a play date or go to a hotel.
Privacy
Remember, not everyone wants to have their names or sexual adventures advertised, be respectful. PHOTO’s: Not everyone likes pictures taken, ask first… then let them view the photos with the option to delete them. ADVENTURES: Not everyone wants to let other people know their business, when meeting up be candid and not “reveal” things unless the other party is ok with it. Most times you can tell if they are comfortable, but when in doubt ASK!
FUN, FUN, FUN….
This lifestyle is all about fun and being able to enjoy sex with other people as well as your partner. Have fun, relax and enjoy one another! Sometimes the best sex is when your back home.
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RE: Tips for Newbie swingers
Great post Sharon,
The only thing I would add is that for us,
Because of the openness of this lifestyle,
and lots of communication between us,
The sex at home,
Is always better.
Huggs,
Karen |
RE: Tips for Newbie swingers
I agree karen, there are times I cannot drag Todd home quick enough to finish what was started lmao
Sharon |
RE: Tips for Newbie swingers
Thank you very much for this thread, very good information and thought fodder. |
RE: Tips for Newbie swingers
Entirely welcome. Thought that one post with a handful of common issues would help!
Sharon |
RE: Tips for Newbie swingers
TY for posting! We are new and are going into it slow. We had all the required discussions before I even created our account. I hope everyone has fun on here, including us. |
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