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The Letdown What we write when rejected without reason
The letdown is the only thing we hate when it comes to getting responses from other people or couples in the Lifestyle. Likewise, we can't tell you how many couples and single Ladies we get from time to time where we look, read their profile or ad, and then go "I-I-I don't think we're a fit!" Your rejection of us is, I'm sure this will be one of those "get over yourself" kind of advice we'd get if we ask further, why. Lord knows we've been rejected to either by a wall of silence or something else, and that's all just fine too; but, when it comes to you having a problem with us is a problem. Instead of putting out a statement like, "we've read your profile, we don't think we're compatible, continued luck and success in the Lifestyle"--then, we would admire you a lot more. Now we feel like your shoe was thown at us which is our major issue. How do we respond to you after you just let us down in such a vain manor? Not being into us at is one thing, but, being so point blank to the quick without knowing us first is another, and we aren't sure we know the answer to this one. How can you feel like you can just cut down another potential partner so quick? It's almost like a we can feel a twitch of evil for cutting someone's honest attraction down. Please let us know why you are not interested in us. Thank you in advance. |
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RE: The Letdown - What we write when rejected without reason
Not sure wheter you're asking a question or making a statement. Sometimes the internet doesn't lend itself to getting a point across as intended. We've had instances wher we've posted something and everybody totally misunderstood what we were trying to say or thought we were being rude or mean spirited, when that wasn't the intention at all. SOme people are more articulate thanothers.Also, the internet is just words on a screen, it doesn't show facial expressions, voice inflections or any other types of non-verbal communications. Our .02 cets.
Rick & Teri |
RE: The Letdown - What we write when rejected without reason
your post is a bit confusing.Is it that you wish for people to inform you as to why they feel incompatable towards you? do you really want that? after all some people have no tact and would be extremely rude in their explanation.i think a simple "we ar not compatable" is better than someone pointing out reasons as to why there in no compatability. |
RE: The Letdown - What we write when rejected without reason
I'm not sure why you feel that stating "we don't think we are compatible" is being rude and hurtful. Maybe they read something in your profile that made them feel that all would not "click" or you just weren't their type. In swinging you are trying to get 4 people to all be compatible. Do you really want to hear "my wife is not attracted to your husband" or "husband is not attracted to your wife" ? I would think that would hurt your feelings more. When your looking at profiles you pick and choose who you find appealing to you and your partner and everyone else is doing the same. So just because you are interested in them doesnt guarantee they will reciprocate. Much better to hear we are not compatible than to be completely ignored or be given the dirty details of why they dont like you.
Mrs. T |
RE: The Letdown - What we write when rejected without reason
Not showing the non-verbal part of communications is one of the most difficult aspects of this format. It is very tough to look at a few small pictures and read a few lines and then to try and decide if that person(s) are a good match. I know if I am not very careful when I write I can be short and critical. I know that others can say things that in person would not offend but written can sound bad. I have been reading all these postings and I am becoming more knowledgeable about the lifestyle. The more postings, that those of you with experiences good and bad share, the better I can gauge how to react. The down side of putting yourself out there for people is that you will experience rejection. |
RE: The Letdown - What we write when rejected without reason
We always just chalk it up to being too ugly, go ahead and have a beer, shake our heads about the callous insincerities of others and forge ahead (like a stiff prick should)
Cheers Everyone |
RE: The Letdown - What we write when rejected without reason
Sometimes if we are not sure if we are interested finding a mutual place to meet and have dinner is a great idea. Meeting up may create a great friendship, and another connection within the lifestyle; it doesn't necessarily have to go any further. Not everyone can expect to be compatible and connect with one another but one can never have too many friends.
Sharon |
RE: The Letdown - What we write when rejected without reason
Some great advice in here. For us it's just a simple thanks but no thanks. If we do meet and they are different from their pics or just not what they seemed to be we just excuse ourselves and leave.
Dave and Mary |
RE: The Letdown - What we write when rejected without reason
Rejection is part of the lifestyle, if you can't handle rejection don't ask the question. My question to you is, how should someone take rejection from you, is that fine as long as you are not rejected? Everyone get's rejected, it happens. I think trackhouse had the best response lol! |
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