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Swinging single versus in a relationship
Not everyone has had this experience, but for those of you who have; do you find your desires as a single swinger differ than when you are swinging in a relationship?
I can somewhat see a change in my M.O. from the days I swang single to now. When single I was a bit more "easy" and unselective into the partners I choose. I always had a chaperone with me so if I got into trouble they were there to drag me out lol (literally if need be). Now that I'm with Todd, it seems that I am not as open which kind of shocks me as I'm not meaning too but I AM more conservative than before.
Anyone else have expereince or advice?
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RE: Swinging single versus in a relationship...
I Dave started as a single kinda like a squirrel just wanting to get a nut. Now that I am with Mary swinging is still fun and enjoyable but she is my number 1 priority, we only playas a couple so there is more selectiveness because both of us have to agree and be comfortable. Which I feel is the 2 biggest differences between single and couple.
Dave |
RE: Swinging single versus in a relationship...
I don't know why Sharon is holding back when we go out to a party. While I do keep an eye on her to make sure she is ok. I do not put limitations on what she is doing while we are there. Now if I saw something that would harm her I would put a stop to it. At some of the parties where she has let herself go it was fun to watch her enjoy herself to the fullest. Now for me. I can have fun weather I get laid or not. I can have fun just watching or joining in. In the least, I feel like I've made new friends that I may have a chance to have later when the time is rite. |
RE: Swinging single versus in a relationship...
you guys are awesome....all both of you! |
RE: Swinging single versus in a relationship...
When ya coming back out to play darlin? |
RE: Swinging single versus in a relationship...
YES! YES!! THERE IS DAYLIGHT AND DARK DIFERENCE IN SWINGING WITH YOUR WIFE/PARTNER. MY WIFE PAT AND I WERE VERY ACTIVE SWINGERS 1978 THRU 1984 LIVING IN A BIG CITY AROUND 200,000 PEOPLE AND WE WERE ATTENDING SWINGING HOUSE PARTIES ABOUT ONE EVERY WEEK 3 WEEKS EVERY MONTH ON AVERAGE. PAT WAS VERY VOCAL AND I REALLY ENJOYED WATCHING HER HAVING SEX WITH OTHER MEN AND ENJOYING HERSELF - A VOYEUR I GUESS YOU WOULD SAY. WHEN SHE HAD A GREAT TIME, THEN I WOULD ALSO HAVE A GREAT TIME WHICH BASICALLY WAS 100 PER CENT OF THE TIME AS PAT ALWAYS ENJOYED HERSELF. AS OUR KIDS BECAME TEENAGERS, PAT WAS AFRAID WE WOULD BE DISCOVERED SO WE DROPPED OUT OF SWINGING FOR A WHILE AND I RECEIVED A PINK SLIP AT MY JOB AND HAD TO MOVE TO A SMALL TOWN SO WE WERE NOT SWINGING ANY MORE FOR A LONG TIME. PAT PASSED AWAY IN 2008 AND I DECIDED TO RETURN TO THE GREAT SWINGING LIFESTYLE WE ENJOYED SO WELL TOGETHER. LET ME TELL YOU WITHOUT YOUR SWINGING PARTNER IT IS NOT THE SAME, USUALLY HALF THE PEOPLE TREAT YOU AS A SWINGER AND THE OTHER HALF VIEW YOU WITH SUSPICION - "ARE YOU SNEAKING OUT ON YOUR WIFE?" "WHY DON'T YOU HAVE A PARTNER?" IT IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT THAN IT WAS WHEN WE WERE SWINGING AS A COUPLE, WE NEVER ASKED THAT QUESTION OF THE PERSON WE WERE SWINGING WITH, IF HE/SHE WAS THERE TO HAVE RECREATIONAL SEX AND WAS CLEAN AND NICE, THEY WERE WELCOME. IN THE 8 YEARS THERE WAS NEVER ANY PROBLEMS EXCEPT FROM SINGLE MEN THAT WERE NOT MARRIED THAT HAD LOOSE LIPS THAT HAD TO BE WEEDED OUT SEVERAL TIMES. |
RE: Swinging single versus in a relationship...
It is truly sad that a female single girl is never asked where their partner is. In my 2 years of swinging single, not even an inquiry! On the other hand, I was always looking for a new single male partner to escort me. Wish we were closer, you could be an escort...at times Todd is on the road and if I have the urge to go out I have only have one local guy I would trust to escort me.
Sharon |
RE: Swinging single versus in a relationship...
I would escort you Sharon in a second. I am actually going to be in your area tomorrow thru Friday. I will be traveling right down 85. would be cool if you had time to meet to introduce myself!! |
RE: Swinging single versus in a relationship...
will send ya an email l8r... just made some plans tho not set in gold yet! |
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