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Playing or Swinging Separately What are your thoughts?

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Playing or Swinging Separately What are your thoughts?

Obviously swinging by and large is a couple on couple sport, however, having said that I have noticed that some are playing/swinging separately.

I believe that as long as you are secure in your relationship that playing separately can work provided clearly defined boundaries are in place and both parties agree.

What are your thoughts on a Husband and Wife, specifically playing separately for sexual pleasure and intercourse?

Would love to hear your thoughts on the topic!

Answers:

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
Have met with a few couples and amazed at how many would just have their SO just satisfied. Seems like the one on one and if everyone agrees playing seperately (same location) is accepted. Seems like 1 lady can wear out 3 guys yet 1 guy can wear out with 1 woman. Just observation.
Rob xoxo

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
Todd has played separately with a g/f of his, I have not as of yet...but if the time comes and I find someone I'm sure the option would be discussed between us.

Sharon

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
Totally up to her, once we have both agreed on the individual.

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
We have agreed to only play as a couple, same room swap. But, we can understand where some couples may be fine with playing alone. At this point though, we don't see that as fitting our plans.

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
For me swinging is all about sharing the experience with the one you love... My focus is on her revieiving the maximum amount of pleasure and hopefully I will recieve the same in return..

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
I must definatly have to agreee with hard4u2play on this as it is all about seeing your signifigant other having fun if she's not having fun then neither am I and together we share everything and everyone !

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
We only swing together, not separately, that's just how we play. Now, as far as same room sex, we have gone into different rooms with other people. But they were people that we both have gotten to know.
We do prefer all be in the same room, tho. xoxo Shirley

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
Swinging together causes far less problems no matter how much trust is involved,that being said ...we prefer same room sex, at first anyway untill we feel very comfortable with the couple(s)we are playing with.

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
I don't consider swinging separately to be swinging, as a couple, to swing involves 3 or more people. I feel swinging separately is more of an open marriage kinda thing.

Smooches,
Gin

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
yes , I would definatly have to agree with you there, swinging is meant to be an activity shared by a couple either soft or hard swap and with 3 or more people, the more the merrier !

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
I believe the term "swinging" replaced the term "wife swapping" around the 80's because it was more politically correct.

My first wife and I were involved in wife swapping back in the late 60's--early 70's-----we were mere children of course!!!!
So, my point is that playing separately (while totally up to the individuals) probably wasnt what the term wife swapping was all about.

My current wife and I have found that playing together only suits our comfort level. Besides we both enjoy watching the other have fun.

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
Very well said and totally CORRECT Sweetie!

Smooches,
Gin

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
I will let my wife nickie swing with other women if she chooses but i dont swing alone with other women and she does not swing with other men with us being together, she is a very bifemale not curious at all and sometimes other women just don't want the guy around lol and thats ok with me as long as i can meet them first and guys you have to understand there is things that only another women can do to her that i never knew and probably never will know lol women know their body and know all the right places and believe me i have learned alot and iam still learning iam student not a teacher but i like it that way, just when you think you figured it out mmmmmmmm something new comes up that i never thought of so guys just a little piece of advise try to learn everything you can about your partner it will be well worth it in the end lolso i guess i a long way of saying we are a cpl that only plays together with just 1 exception to the rule is that that she can be with another woman with out me being there but i have to meet them first for her safety...

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
I wouldn't mind my mrs fucking anyone she likes,but i would have to be there.it would seem too much like cheating if we weren't together.

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
I agree with AskGin

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
We think for us anyway, it is a couples thing. If your "swinging" alone, why be married? This is an obvious pleasure activity no matter how you look at it. We have talked about this on many levels and trusting your partner and his or her safety is of our utmost concern. I can honestly say that if she and I trust and like the couple and there is an attraction to "them"(not 1 or the other), then I am completely happy to see her pleased and teased and satisfied by any lover man or woman with no fear or jealousy. I don't think we would be very comfortable just seeing the other just fucking another person just because we may be horny and that person is a willing particapant. We both have to like and agree on both partners of the other couple or person. For us being in this lifestyle, each others happiness is parimount..we either do it as a couple, or not at all. We think it would be cheating if done otherwise and doing it together helps eliminate fears of things like jealousy, does he/she like him/her better than me?...her or him getting hurt, physically or mentally. Just our thoughts a little on this subject.

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
We only play as a couple be it either same or seperate rooms. It is like everything else in this lifestyle a personal choice of what works for you. First and foremost is her safety. She is totally BI and even if she plays with just a female I as the man want to be there, even if it is just sitting in another room. As far as couples we both decide on whom we play with. If she plays with a single male I will be there in the room, for her safety ( have had some men try to not use condoms ) even though they say they are, and try to push things they want regardless of what she says.
Dave and Mary

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
i have swung before in a past life, my wife has not so after a great deal of disscusion, i agreed to put her on a plane and place her in the care of trusted friends of ours on the west coast the only hard rule i set was that she go with an open mind and enjoy the experiance. after she gets home if all goes well we will set the ground rules.

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
We also agreed just to swing together as an couple, what than happens at the meeting or in the club is another pair of shoes...but at least we are together enjoying it

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
we play together or alone not a big deal for us

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
Mmmm can't wrap my brain around not being together in the same room,let alone the same house. We became interested in exploring the lifestyle to do the things we couldn't do together. To experience the erotic interactions of 3sums, 4sums etc... not to get a piece of strange so to speak. I do know that many couples happily exist in various scenarios but together same room is the only for us.

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
We don't play alone! and we don't do diffrent room swap, we tried it recently and we were both uncomfortable with it.I think that swinging seperatly can cause more problems then help.

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
WHEN MY WIFE PAT WAS ALIVE AND WE WERE ACTIVELY SWINGING AS A COUPLE, WE ENCOURAGED EACH OTHER TO SWING SEPARATELY FOR THE 7 YEARS WE WERE VERY ACTIVE. IT GREATLY IMPROVED OUR MARRIAGE AND TIME TOGETHER AND WE HAD GREAT TIMES SWINGING TOGETHER ALSO. LOOKING BACK , WOULD DO IT AGAIN AND IF YOU LOVE EACH OTHER AS WE DID THERE WILL BE NO PROBLEMS JUST A GREAT EXTENSION OF THE GREATEST LIFESTYLE THERE IS - THE SWINGING LIFESTYLE!! OF COURSE WE HAD A 200 NTO 300 COUPLE SWINGERS GROUP KNOWVILLE TO NASHVILLE, TN WE WERE INVOLVED WITH SO IT WAS PEOPLE WE ALMOST KNEW MOST OF THE TIME.

RE: Playing or Swinging Separately - What are your thoughts?
We decided when we were in the beginning of the adventure that it was either together or not at all. That is only right.

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