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Emotions and swinging
As couples we go into swinging with an open mind and welcome others to share a piece of our minds, hearts and bodies.... but what happens if one partner gets a little too close to another playmate?
What would happen if one partner fell out of love with the spouse and in love with a play partner? Anyone have ideas to help avoid this from happening... or is it always a gamble one takes? |
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RE: Emotions and swinging...
I think it can be a gamble as far as getting a little too close but depending on the couple that may not cause a problem. I will be the first to admit that if I don't like you a bunch, I ain't sleeping with you and our comfort in closeness may be uncomfortable for others. A couple where one falls out of love and in love with an added partner already had problems to begin with and should not be swinging, they were probably headed in the direction of a divorce already and swinging quickened the process.
I think the best resolution is communication, be honest as to what you are looking for and how to proceed in the lifestyle. Of course if one isn't being truthful then there isn't a way to prevent or predict a bad outcome.
Smooches,
Gin |
RE: Emotions and swinging...
Touchy topic for me. NOT that my ex (we all know his name) fell in love with someone we had a threesome with. SHE did him though. After our relationship ended, he called her with in HOURS of moving out of our home. That really HURT me, deeply. I say it really comes down to trust and I for one new not to trust in his words when it came to this lady. Lesson well learned. I say it's a gamble all parties take. BECAUSE fact is, it happens. |
RE: Emotions and swinging...
I totally agree with Gin!!!! 100%!! If you're having issues as a cpl & enter the swinging lifestyle, it can make your love for each other stronger or it will tear y'all apart & destroy it!!!
Communication is a MUST in this lifestyle!!!!
We have also witnessed this, cpls breaking up due to another player!! But in the end, that cpl got back together & resolved their issues!!!
Yes it is a gamble, but if you are totally honest with your partner & tell him/her what you really want then there shouldn't be a problem!
Getting too close & involved in another couples personal problems can be dangerous!! Too much Drama!! lol lol
Just my opinion...
kisses
Shirley |
RE: Emotions and swinging...
Well said Gin! Communication and a stable relationship BEFORE swinging is definitely the key to a solid foundation for years of swinging.
Sharon |
RE: Emotions and swinging...
My darlin Twilly (so hard to call ya that, lol) I know its been a hard year for you, but it is starting to smooth out as your new path has started to form. Embrace the changes, you have soooo much to offer and the right one WILL come along just when you least expect it.... perhaps at the gym ;)
Sharon |
RE: Emotions and swinging...
LoL Sharon! The gym does provide me with some very nice eye candy!!!! For now, I will take that and what ever that may bring to me..LoL |
RE: Emotions and swinging...
We knew 2 couples for about 3 years and well to make long story short they played and now have swapped partners for good.So yes it does happen it all comes down to faith in each other, No matter what I know who will wake up beside me the next day.
gary |
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