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Can only one partner swing while another drops out?
I was talking with some friends today and looking at old photos and they were reminiscing about their swinger days back in the 80/90's. I then asked what went awry, and it happens that one partner went into depression, medications altered their desires permanently and they retired. Even though they had a blast and had many friends, they fell off the swinging wagon.
Now, what if one partner wants to continue.... and the other does not, would you be able to let your partner play? Would you want your partner to give it all up if it was your desire lacking? Or... could you continue to attend and NOT play? |
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RE: Can only one partner swing while another drops out?
That's a good question Sharon, It's almost a double edged sword... |
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Truly is a double edged sword because I seen the end results of that decision today for these two and I hope we never have to make a decision of that nature. |
RE: Can only one partner swing while another drops out?
I can say that for us, neither would continue, we swing TOGETHER, it's for us and if one could no longer be involved then we would certainly discontinue swinging. I can also say that for a year as I was recovering from my knee replacement, we continued to attend parties and get togethers with our swinging friends and did not feel that we were missing out by not playing, If we could no longer swing we would be fine still hanging out with our friends. I'm sure it would be difficult at times but we would still enjoy it.
Smooches,
Gin
Smooches,
Gin |
RE: Can only one partner swing while another drops out?
OOPS double Smooches....lol |
RE: Can only one partner swing while another drops out?
Girl stop givin all my smooches away lol |
RE: Can only one partner swing while another drops out?
We feel the same way as Gin! We both entered swinging as a cpl & will leave as a cpl. At our age, if one of us had a medical issue & sex wasn't desired anymore, it wouldn't be a problem for us! We'd still be together cuz we love each other!
Now if we were 30 something, it would be a difficult decision!
xoxo Shirley |
RE: Can only one partner swing while another drops out?
lol MY BAD!!!! Smooches,Smooches,Smooches,Smooches
:bigkiss: just for you Apple Dumplin!!!!
Yet another kisses
Gin |
RE: Can only one partner swing while another drops out?
we are sittin here talkin bout this one, ummmmmm we would have to agree ,one drops out then the other to, even thou we have swung lol seperate, still if something like a life changing thing happened, yeh we behind each other. (Great topic sweety)!!!!!!!! |
RE: Can only one partner swing while another drops out?
I think it depends on how you and your partner swing and what each of you gets from it.
Those who play separate already might not have as much of a problem as those who always play same room only
For others maybe it turns into a somewhat cuckold relationship and they just enjoy hearing about their partners adventures or even watching if they no longer can participate themselves.
It would also depend on if both partners still want to keep up the social end of things with their swinger friends or the one partner wants a complete break away.
So many variables to consider...excellent topic for discussion.
What could make it harder I think is if the one partner has no interest in sex all together which leaves a huge void for the other person and their relationship in general.
For us it is something we do together, same room, with the understanding that when and if one partner wants to stop we both will. |
RE: Can only one partner swing while another drops out?
I just went through all of this with a guy back and fourth through emails. It started by him telling me we are interested if she is not sure she wants to anymore. I told him he needed to talk to her first then contact us again after he knew for sure.Well a few hours later he came back with she doesnt want to play anymore. He also asked me what should he do should he stay on this site without her knowing or what. I told him first thing he needed to do was go back and talk with her openly about all of this. The last thing she needs to do is find out about this from somone else. I also told him not to get upset or pushy because it would just make things worse. I had also told him in the beggining of the emails that he was single if she wasnt playing anymore. He took it personal at first and said thanks for judging us!! I responded that I wasnt judging it was just a fact that he told me, and that he didnt want to start meeting new people on a lie. With them thinking he is a couple and wasnt. He responded back and appologized with you are right and a sorry. Then I told him go back have a good calm talk with her to find out where she really stands then stop and ask hisself what would he do if the rolls were turned around. He sent me a thank you for the help and asked if he could add us as friends when he knew for surewhat she wanted to do. I told him sure no problem, I am still waiting on reply from him.
Now for us we have taken long breaks in the past, if one is done we both are. We started this together and respect each other enough and know how the other would feel if only one went on, to just stop all together
gary |
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When my wife got sick, we stopped playing. In our case, it was distance. I/we could play alone, but that was over a 1000 miles away. We had no computer and I didn't know how to use one. We were a couple and only played that way, even alone. |
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Gary.... I had a strangely familiar type of situation this past week or so with someone here. Told them that their profile was VERY misleading and could lead to the idea that He was playing single as a married person with the way his profile, pictures, and attitude was. He responded back with this big BS story that he could not keep up.
Sharon |
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